When I first read my mom’s response, my stomach dropped. I sat there on my couch, phone in hand, rereading her text over and over. Each time, the words stung a little more. She said she’d “worked her whole life to give me everything I needed” and now it was her time. I wanted to scream. If she’d given me everything I needed, then why was I here, maxed out on credit cards, rent due next week, car payment hanging over my head like a storm cloud? The frustration bubbled up fast—hot, sharp, and familiar. My thumbs hovered over the screen, ready to type out something raw and cutting. Something to make her feel the way I felt in that moment. But I stopped. My breath came in short bursts. This wasn’t a conversation for text messages.
I needed to hear her voice. So I called. She picked up on the second ring. “Hey, honey,” she said warmly, like everything was fine. “Mom, I don’t think you get it,” I blurted, skipping the pleasantries. “I’m drowning here, and you’re out there living like a queen. Trips, nice dinners… meanwhile I’m barely keeping my head above water.” She was quiet for a beat before she spoke, her voice calm but firm. “I do get it. But you have to understand—this is my time now. I spent decades worrying about you, about bills, about work. I put my dreams on hold so you’d have opportunities I never had.”