When my daughter Tasha lost her job last year, I opened my home to her and her four kids. I covered food, school costs, doctor visits—everything—while she tried to get back on her feet. It wasn’t easy, but we managed. Then on her 26th birthday, she sat us down and said the words I feared most: “I’m going to get back together with Howard.” Howard, the man who once seemed charming but quickly turned violent. The man who shoved her over a spilled drink, who left bruises she tried to hide, who once pushed JJ’s high chair across the room.
The night that happened, she finally left him and came to me, terrified and trembling. So hearing she wanted to return to him felt like being punched in the chest. She insisted he had changed—was sober, working, apologetic. But days later, he didn’t even show up to their meeting. Soon she slipped back into old habits: waiting on messages, blaming herself, hoping he’d be better.
Then he showed up at my fence shouting. When I told him to leave, he snapped with the same anger I remembered. That shook her. But the worst came next: a letter from a lawyer. He wanted partial custody. We fought back with shelter records, medical notes, and statements. The judge allowed only supervised visits. Even then, Howard snapped at JJ during one session, and the supervisor reported it. The visits were stopped.
Slowly, Tasha healed. She found a job, saved money, and rebuilt herself. Then one day, he disappeared—moved out of state. A year later, she signed the lease on her own apartment, smiling through tears. She finally learned what I prayed she would:
Peace doesn’t come from giving someone another chance.
Peace comes from choosing yourself.