Living with in-laws can be hard, especially when your partner doesn’t agree with you. A mother of two, expecting her third child, shared her story about living with her mother-in-law. She wants her to move out, but her husband doesn’t support her and isn’t being reasonable, according to her.
How my MIL ended up living with us.
34-year-old Megan shared how uncomfortable things have become with her mother-in-law and husband. She explained, “Hi Bright Side! I’ve seen similar stories on your page, so I wanted to share mine too. I need to get this off my chest, and I hope someone reading this can give me advice on what to do next.”
She explained how her MIL came to live with them, “My husband John (36) and I moved in together years before we got married. Both of our families were okay with it. But when John’s parents separated, his mom moved in with us.”
Megan explained why she’s no longer okay with her MIL living in their house, “My MIL has been with us for 10 years now. We’ve had ups and downs, but I’ve kept quiet. I’m pregnant with our third child now, and space is becoming a problem. It’s time for her to move out.”
They have a 5-bedroom house. Their eldest daughter has one room, their younger daughter has another, one room is for Megan and John, one is for Megan’s office, and one is for her MIL. There’s no space left for the new baby.
Megan feels she has sacrificed enough in her marriage, “I’ve been trying to talk to my husband about this for months, but he avoids the subject or ignores it. Last night, I told him seriously that his mother needs to move out.
“She has lived with us all this time without paying for bills or utilities. She hasn’t even bought anything for us or our kids just out of kindness. She has a job and makes good money. She can afford her own place, and I don’t want my kids to share a room.”
When Megan brought it up, her husband got upset and said, “We could turn your office into the baby’s room. You won’t be working when the baby is born.” Megan was very frustrated.
The expecting mother tried offering other solutions, “When I said the office is not an option, my husband suggested that our daughter could share a room with the baby. I don’t think that’s fair. We don’t know if the baby will be a boy or a girl, and either way, I want to respect our daughter’s personal space. Instead, I suggested that if he really wants his mom to stay, she could live in the basement. It’s big, and we could make it nice for her.”
But her husband was very against the idea and said Megan was being mean for thinking that way. Megan wonders, “Am I really a bad person? I just want what’s best for my kids. What should I do?