When my five-year-old daughter, Lily, refused to cut her hair, I assumed it was just a phase. But one night, after she fell asleep with gum in her mouth, it got tangled badly in her hair. As my wife Sara gently reached for scissors, Lily panicked.
“No! I want my real daddy to recognize me when he comes back!” she cried. Her words hit me like a punch to the chest. I’m her father. Who was she talking about? Through tears, Lily revealed her grandmother—Sara’s mother—told her to keep her hair long so her “real dad” would recognize her. We were stunned. Sara confronted her mother the next day.