The phrase “Speak now or forever hold your peace” often conjures images of dramatic interruptions at weddings. We tend to think of an angry ex suddenly speaking up to halt the ceremony. However, this phrase originally had a more practical function. It was a final opportunity to ensure no one had any legal or moral objections before the marriage took place.
At my dad’s third wedding, my stepbrother and I were both part of the wedding party. I was 10 years old, and he was just 6. As the ceremony progressed, the preacher asked the traditional question: if anyone had objections to the marriage, they should speak now. To everyone’s surprise, my stepbrother politely raised his hand.
My dad, looking slightly confused, asked him why he was objecting. Without missing a beat, my stepbrother answered, “Because I want you to promise to take me fishing whenever I want, first.” The wedding guests burst into laughter, and my dad, with a smile, assured him that they would go fishing as much as he wanted.
While this phrase often sets the stage for dramatic or humorous moments, its original intent was to protect the sanctity of marriage by allowing any hidden issues to be aired before vows were exchanged. In this case, it led to a lighthearted and memorable moment that became a cherished family story.